Monday night I turned 32 years old and got kicked out of a bar for the first time in so many years that I was surely a didn’t-know-better 20-something the last time it happened. To make it worse, it was Hank’s, my local musty dive where the bar for getting kicked out is so high I’ve seen blasted regulars limbo under it while shadowboxing the voices in their heads. Yet Monday, a spilled drink escalated into a shouting match with the bartender which escalated into the throwing of water and mad accusations about tipping, and then the ol’ angry 86. Demerit badge achieved!
Getting booted from a dive like Hank’s feels like a particularly ignoble honor, kinda like the brokester analog to being given VIP entrance into The Jane. So that’s my Brooklyn demerit badge, the iconic moment that made me question my life decisions. We’ve all got these, the just slightly cliche things you can check off your bizarro BK bucket list: common demerits include getting busted for drinking on the train or leaving your CSA at the bar or doing any kind of performance art.
So! Let’s all share ours and wallow in our collective poor decision making: the person with the best badge gets promoted to Brooklyn Eagle Scout. Team Brokelyn shares their badges below:
Demerit earned: Union Pool Hookups Badge
A guy bit my face at Union Pool. I went to work the next day with teeth marks on my cheekbone. Like, chomped. I must have gone with it, because we def kept making out. But there was a bite.
–Rebecca Fishbein
Demerit earned: Almost Made it Home Badge
One night I drunkenly got out of the taxi right in front of my door, then face-planted into the pavement, busting my eye open at 4am. I had to show up to work on Monday with a black eye and tell people I hadn’t been fighting, I was drunk.
Then, by the time everything healed, that next friday, I came home super drunk again and got mugged. they hit me in the other eye and gave me a black eye. Bleeding at my front door at 4am again. Two straight weeks of alternating black eyes.
–Eric Silver
Demerit earned: Being “That Guy” at the Mermaid Parade
I showed my dick to Coney Island once. At this year’s Mermaid Parade, I decided it would be a good idea to cool off by going swimming in my boxers. After I got out of the water, I thought I heard people laughing at me when I walked by them. But it was Coney Island the day of the Mermaid Parade, so it was loud and I figured I was hearing things. Until I passed a woman who looked at me, pointed at my crotch and shouted, “Yo, put that thing away.”
–Dave Colon
Demerit earned: Faulty Recycling Badge
Once I went swimming in Coney Island and needed to brush my hair afterwards, so I used a fork. But it was a dirty plastic fork and I didn’t realize it so I got funnel cake in my hair.
–Cat Agonis
Demerit earned: Dude Where’s My Car? Badge
Three weeks after I moved to Brooklyn I drove my car to get drinks with a friend and then the next day I couldn’t find it. After searching my neighborhood all day long, I reported it stolen and canceled my insurance. Then three months later, I was riding down Flatbush in an Arecibo car and I saw my Mazda. Turns out it had sat there for three months, in exactly the same spot I parked it across from the Prospect Park Zoo, gas light still on, no tickets on the dashboard even though it was in a street cleaning zone?
I couldn’t even drive it because my “break in insurance” precluded me from getting re-insured. So I got the fucker off the street, professionally towed to my grandma’s in South Toms River, New Jersey where it sat in her garage until I rode the bus down there two months later and sold it for $1500.
–Kate Mooney
Demerit earned: The We’ve All Already Dated Each Other Badge
I’m unable to date people without it being a friend’s best friend. A guy I just recently went on dates with, I found out he knows my friend. Fine, but, then I found out that I met him three years ago and photographed him and had no idea and then found the photos on my hard drive. Whoops.
Another guy I dated was living in NJ so I thought I was safe. Then he was talking about his best friend loving the vegan menu at Paulie Gee’s and suddenly i asked if it was this dude who happened to be the last guy I dated.
-Anonymous female Team Brokelyn member
Demerit earned: Bedford Avenue All-Star Badge
In a series of unfortunate New Year’s Eve events, I made out with a French stranger, left an entire Fornino pizza atop a cab, barfed on Bedford Ave., where I was standing in a puddle of snow and slush and gross Bedford, with pizza atop cab. I don’t know if anyone stopped to help me, I don’t know if it was on me, I don’t know anything. Then I woke up to discover my hangover was actually pneumonia. Thanks, guy!
-Anonymous female Team Brokelyn member
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but i'd also like to recommend the one and only matt nelson who was arrested for WALKING ACROSS THE NOSE OF A SUBWAY TRAIN WHILE HOLDING AN OPEN DRINK
I "kaw-kawed" at a bartender at the Lever and got violently thrown out!
I'm waiting to order a drink while 3 Levee bartenders talk amongst themselves, backs turned to the patrons.
I was at one end of the bar and made a bird noise, "ka-kaaawww". One of the male bartenders walked over. He was pissed. I immediately tried to calm the situation after he asked, "did you just fucking ka-kaw at me?"
"Yes, I'm sorry man. I was just trying to get your attention"
Time out! You must know that I'm a very careful, socially conscious person (too much so most of the time) and upon realizing I had pissed someone off on accident I became GENUINELY apologetic. I can't do conflict.
So I do my best to fix my faux papa. I really do. People around me are laughing and the next thing I know the bartender lunges over the bar and pushes me off my stool. I'm still trying to figure out WHAT THE HECK-FUCK I did wrong on the floor as the bouncer violently forces me out of the bar.
Here's another detail: I had only ordered ONE DRINK!! I'm not leaving anything out of this story.
So I've told this story to countless people and basically everyone either has the same reaction I still do or they assume I'm leaving out some part where I tell the bartender to fuck himself (never happened).
I'm still confused to this day but I DID hear from ONE person out of the countless I've told, "well fuck ya you got thrown out! You fucking ka-kawed at a bartender.
???
This is the best story and I wish I'd been there to see it. You win all the shame.
I think OKCupid related demerits have there own separate subcategory, where I have earned badges such as:
-Unwittingly messaging a friend from college
-Running into that dude you messaged the night before at the library, seeing him recognize you, watching him pull up your profile on his laptop, then never writing you back.
-Taking home a probable serial killer
Further, I own up to earning Peeing in Between Two Parked Cars on Bond St. While Sober. Because sometimes a lady has to do what a lady has to do.
Guess I can also add The Morning After Cringe: Misuse of Homonyms to my sash.
Demerit Earned: Getting beat up at Union Pool by a random person.
One night at Union Pool, I was getting drunk, what else is there to do there? I was talking to this one girl from Africa the entire night. 4 AM quickly approaches and I decided to tell my friend, 'Hey, you know what? Go ahead and go home if you need to. I'm going to close out my tab." I close out my tab, and once I step foot outside of Union Pool, I get punched in the nose. Then black out and know I got punched a few times, but don't really have a grasp on what happened that night. I know I was only punched in the face because I had two black eyes, one broken nose, a scar inside of my mouth, and a huge bruise on the side of my head. I had a $400 camera in my bag and my wallet which were left entirely alone. I later asked my friend what happened, and he told me that I was speaking with one girl the entire night. So what happened? Well, it was either an exboyfriend, a current boyfriend, or some dude she had recently dismissed and had been watching the entire time or the entire event was just a random beating, which is what I hope to believe. I of course was drunk but finally came to walking around Kellog's Diner on the corner of Metropolitan and Union as I was waiting for the ambulance that the aforementioned African girl had called for me. I then spent two nights in Woodhull Hospital where I was questioned by the social services part of the hospital. I had told them that things that happened outside of Union Pool and the hospital worker then told me that many things like that had happened at Union Pool. Apparently, their security cameras are inoperable because they turned them off and only have them up there for display. The reason for that is because a few months prior a bouncer at Union Pool had been caught beating the shit out of and nearly to death of some kid that attended the place. So because of that, they no longer have security cameras that work, they are just hanging up there to make it seem like you have a sense of security.
2 weeks later I returned to make a statement and ended up making out with a 49 year old woman.
You get a merit badge for making out with a middle-aged woman.
Er, does everyone else know what ka-kaw means? Here's the urban dictionary definition, which doesn't seem exactly a propos here: "When on is on a double date and during this date they have to take a shit. He uses this saying to inform the other person that he does indeed have to shit. Expecially when one is all dressed up."
He made a bird noise
Demerit Earned: MTA All-star Badge
A couple of weeks ago after a night of drinking in the city I woke up at home to a text message that read, "Hey Laura u met me on F train around 12:30 AM. U were very heavily drunk and didn't know where were u going. But u were able to recall urs address and cell #. U wanted to go Brooklyn but ended up last stop of F train in queens. Anyways I was happy u got home safe. Yours friend, Rana."
PS: I live off the Morgan L stop.
Demerit Earned: My Bike Was Stolen. No It Wasn't.
This actually happened this week. I've been out of town, and my roommate texted me that he didn't see my bike in the hallway, so he thought I was back in town. I instantly start texting the other people in my building to see if anyone had seen it, and they all tell me they thought it had been in the shop or something. So I'm thinking either someone stole my shitty bike, or someone hanging out with someone else in the building borrowed it, maybe. Then I think back to the last time I saw it, before I left town for the weekend. I had been running errands on my bike, and I stopped for a bagel. I was pretty sure I had gotten on my bike after, but I wasn't positive, because my mind was on packing to leave town. My roommate walked in that direction, and yup, bike has been locked up on the street for days. I wish this were even a little bit related to alcohol.
Demerit earned: 4th of July badge
My 4th of July celebrations began on July 3rd, which is when my buddies and I began day-drinking. Some of us got engaged. We danced. And ran. And did naughty things to each other because that night/day was full of bets and dares, once including daring my new best gay friend to show his dick at Roberta's during the 4th of July brunch. He did. And we were kicked out, but that didn't stop us. We did more naughty things to each and ended up at a bro-roof top party in Williamsburg. After the fireworks were seen, some of us collapsed. And some collapsed the day after. We are still friends. Kind of.
Demerit Earned: The Finders Keepers//Five Second Rule Badge
After drinking my weight in failure one night at the bar where I was trying to hit on the bartender, I went to catch the F Train from 2nd Av. As we all know, hunger is infinite at times like this.
I spied a wrapped Subway sandwich on the bench. Indulging the coincidence, I unwrapped it to check the status: uneaten, seemingly untouched.
It was a 6" turkey sub. I am a vegetarian. I ate some of it. I dropped the rest by accident. I kicked the remains onto the tracks in a fit of rage, unrequited lust, and vegetarianism.
I don't know why but this feels like the grossest one.
Demerit badge: Trying to hook up with an idiot
It was at an official Brokelyn Party (woooo!). The summer camp one. I was chatting up this dude who was kind of a dum-dum, but I figured he was cute enough to bang. I slogged through his nonsensical stories and even watched his skateboarding video (I swear he was over 21). Just as we were about to leave for possible sex adventures, he says he needs to call his friend and tell him not to meet him that night. After he hangs up the phone he says, "sorry about that, my friend is being a total Jew." I gave him the one possible out in this situation, which was to ask if he was Jewish. He was not. I did an about face, and instead split a cab with some friends home. I have a no racism hook-up policy. Also, I'm very clearly Jewish....what???